Smiths Friends(Brunstad Christian Church) Womans view

First I'd like to introduce, from time to time I will now write about a Norwegian Cult called Brunstad Christian Church, which has affected my family heavily during the last few decades, and which still does really bad things to many families and parents. This first part is about their female views.

So, this I know mostly as "Smith's Venner"
This is a "Sect", more commonly in my vocabulary referred to as a cult, that scares the living crap out of me. The reason this place scares me is because a good chunk of my family is a member of it. This once included my poor mother, she suffered at their hands for 28 years, being basically an obedient woman

Smith's friends really harasses women too, they say women actually get salvation through children. Which causes women to give birth to their own tiny little armies. My mother actually has 11 siblings, and they shared home with another family of the same cult with 14 children. What more it says is:
- The man is the head of the woman
- The woman should never cut her hair
- The woman is created for the man
- The woman needs to wear a clear sign of submission on her head
- A woman should never Teach
- A good woman is silent and obedient
- A woman should have nice clothing (Sigh.. Really? This obvious that you're horny?)

With this in mind, let me share one thing that happened: A woman that had given birth to many a child. She was once told by her doctor that if she carried another child, she would probably die. What happened next was that her anxiety for hell, caused by this cult, caused her to bear another child, in which she died during Child birth.
According to the author Johan Velten, this is just one of many scary stories of what happend in this horrible cult.

Last, but not least. I would love to say that, the nicest women of all time exist in this sect, and they have reason to shine, not cry. Many women speak loudly about their "Crime" of not being good enough for anyone or anything. These women have a reason to shine, and feel beauty about themselves. But they don't! And that's this cults fault! This includes my grandmother apparently, which makes me sad, because, what I knew of her, she was the nicest woman alive, so nice I could never see her dislike or hate anyone, and never see anyone hate or dislike her.

"Thank god"

Now, I've lately read a lot of posts people having their good deeds, love for each other and skills, blamed upon god.

This, is not okay. I'll tell you why:
If I ever trained to become, let me use something I understand, a professional starcraft 2 player. This causes me to learn a lot of military strategies, positioning and basicly how to win a war and not just the fight. Let us now say the general died, they were looking for a man to save the day, these are the last freedom fighters for their country, and they need someone that understand strategical thinking. That would then in this case be me since I understand strategy quite well. In the end I win the war, and then people chant: "THANK GOD FOR KEEPING US SAFE DURING THIS WAR".
All I just did, save them, risked by life by proclaiming myself as the last hope of the free country, is something they blame on god?!

How angry would you be when you had worked so hard, every day at home thinking strategies, or practiced your violin, or trained for that cool boxing match, if people said "It's all gods fault"?

Every day now I read about people that have struggled so hard to reach their position and no real honor or credit is bestowed upon them. This, is wrong. Give credit where credit is due, god had nothing to do with it.

My first post in this blog, ever.

So I'll start by my introdctionary post, which is actually something I posted on reddit but was so far behind in a very popular post it didn't get as much attention as I wanted it to have.

"I was a christian once, I knew there was a better life after death, and a bigger place with obviously lots of the stuff I loved(Heaven). First problem I had was that I loved doing stuff not so loved in the bible, but there it said Jesus died for all our sins, so we'll in the end all go to heaven. This missed my "Perfect Heaven" completely. Think about it for a second. In heaven I see myself as a so bored person I would be sick of life, death or anything. This, sounds horrible to me, then we have hell... Forget that. I'd rather not exist.
This is my first thought towards rational thought ever, and I started thinking: "But there HAS to be a life after death, I just can't accept being... Gone". In the end I read a very important sentence which says: "People believe what they want to believe." That sentence changed my life. In the end I just pulled myself away from either eternal torture in hellfire or being bored in Heaven. I also listen to a lot of old people, atheists and religious alike, that when they are old, they actually don't give so much a damn anymore, they're just tired. I've thought to myself: "So there's a point in life where I'm tired of waking up in the morning!". The thought which rings beautifully in my mind is that as long as I get old, and lead a good life all the way through (Wife/kids, maybe both, but that sounds stressful) I'll be content, of course I'd much more love to be Sean Connery, and a bit of Johnny Depp and Nestea(Starcraft). And you know what? Living my life to the fullest supporting others removes all worries about death for me, Life is history, make that history, and history lives forever!"